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My significant other typically does not exhibit frugal tendencies. This has caused friction for us, but now I am seeing the frugal come out, and I’m elated.
Significant Other and Spending
My significant other, my wonderful loving, hardworking husband has always been way more free with money than I have. As soon as we moved in together I noticed his habits. Name brand this, Name brand that… and it adds up fast. While some things like Cheerio’s you really need the name brand, other things like canned vegetables can go with the store brand easily.
In all honesty, my frugal ways have been an annoyance to my husband. He feels shopping with me can be a hassle because I have my coupon binders, envelopes, price matches, and a strategy. I also have backup strategies and backup plans. I will scout out cashiers, and get to know the good cashier’s work schedules and work around when I know they will be there. To me, this is a necessity of shopping. Seeing we only live off of his income, I want to save his hard earned dollars as far as I can. save his hard earned dollars as far as I can.
Don’t scare the bear
About 5 years ago, I started seeing some hints of frugal coming out of him. I was so happy, yet I was scared if I said anything he would retreat to his old ways. So, I made every effort to not scare the bear.
More and more, he is picking up tips and tricks that he has heard me talk about with my girlfriends. It can be something as simple as a punch card somewhere and that is like Christmas morning for me.
Recently, he decided that he wanted to put a lift kit on his truck. Instead of reverting back to his old ways, I am happy to report that he researched the lift kit. He priced out the parts individually compared to the kit prices. He also researched different brands, and comparison shopped. I about fell off my chair, as I was watching him. Inside I was gleaming with pride. Yet, I could not make a big deal about it until he made the final purchase.
He ended up finding the whole kit for his truck, from a very reputable brand that included a warranty for less than $800.00. Had he not researched this purchase out, he could have easily spent over $1,200.00. He even bragged that he was able to get free shipping.
I am also noticing a difference in him at the grocery store. While he will never go to my extent of a grocery shopping trip, but he is paying attention to prices and items that are on sale. If it has a tag on the shelf with a sale price, he will compare that to the store brand prices. I doubt he will ever grab a flyer and see if there is a missed sale, but I do take pride in the victories that I have seen.
He has also listened when it comes to our wedding anniversary and Valentine’s day. Since we were married on February 15th, I have made remarks in years past that I do not need gifts for each day. I can even wait until a week or two later. I can not see spending twice the amount of money on flowers, chocolate, and stuffed animals. He now waits until after the 15th to spoil me a little.
I love my husband, and I really love when I see hints of my frugal-ness peaking through on him. Does your significant other share and support your frugal ways? How has your significant other surprised you with becoming frugal? Is your significant other more frugal than you?